A young man asked his Grandfather: "A fight is going on inside me, One wolf is evil—he is fear, anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, competition, superiority, and ego. The other is good—he is joy, peace, love, hope, sharing, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, friendship, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith. Which wolf will win, Grandfather?”
The Elder simply replied, “The one you feed.”
Guilt (along with its bad cousins listed above) is usually unwanted, often unwarranted and always unhelpful. It often received far too much of our attention.
But, no matter how hard many of us try, it seems that guilt comes right along with us. If the opposite of guilt is peace, then hanging around feeling guilty is going to bring many clouds to your sunshine.
Letting go of guilt may require truth-telling; asking for forgiveness; and setting some healthy boundaries for yourself and others. Whilst we often strive to love others as we love ourselves, we may need to focus on loving ourselves more and forgiving ourselves quicker before we are capable of loving and forgiving others well. Self-love can be a wonderful treat not just for ourselves, but also for those around us who are equally hindered by our impossibly high standards and the resulting guilt trips.
So please feed the good wolf. Let's grow joy, peace, love, hope, sharing, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, friendship, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith. Let's be kind, gentle and generous with ourselves, our families and colleagues and watch guilt wither.