Days like Mother's Day are a great reminder of who I am and where I come from and all the people who have made me who and what I am. I was raised by my grandmother ma Dlamini. She was not my mother nor did she act in that capacity. She was my dotting grandmother. Then there were my aunts, whose official titles literally mean older mum and younger mum. So this Mother's Day week I celebrate all the women who have mothered me and the lessons they've taught me.
Ma Dlamini (my grandmother) was by far the most important woman in my life. She was my place of safety, even when my mother and I had an argument I knew this gal would understand and make her daughter see reason. She was also the person who wrote me a strongly worded letter when I was in my second to last year of school. I was failing (boy problems) and my mother was beside herself. Ma Dlamini wrote: "We are all working hard to build a legacy with you. We are trying to give you a gift for life." I could see her frown in my head.
My mother's oldest cousin, older mum, was a blessed with the gift of healing. One of the strongest memories I have of her is us (she, my mother and my little cousin) dancing at her house. We danced late into the night with her drum as our only source of music. Getting the calling, is one the the most beautiful and rare gifts, yet it the most consuming and requires a bit of sacrifice. She has taught me to love and embrace all the different parts of myself and has always been there for me when I needed advice and when I began my journey back to simple and Earth considerate living.
From the time when I was 10 years old my mother had a job working away from home. She sent money home, most of which she specified was for school. When time came for me to go to high school she had managed to save enough to send me to Inanda Seminary, one of the most prestigious boarding schools in the country at the time where I met some the most wonderful women I know. This allowed me to have the corporate future I've had. Education has been the difference between the life I've lived and the one my mother and her mother had.
I would also like to thank all the other powerful women that I haven't met but have mothered me with their actions and lessons in life, love, friendship and spirituality. Even more love to the women who let me mother them.